"You don't have to know what you want for the rest of your life. Just what feels right for this next step.” - Rebecca Ann

Feeling Lost in Midlife or After Loss?

You're not alone. If you've ever looked around at your life and thought, "Okay.... now what?" - welcome, my friend. You've just stumbled into one of the most tender and transformative spaces in a woman's life. Whether you've recently become widowed, gone through a major life change, or you're simply standing in the middle of midlife wondering where you went...... this is for you.

Episode 28: Redesigning Life When You Have No Idea What You Want

When Clarity Feels Out of Reach

Let me just say it loud for the women in the back: You don't need to have it all figured out.

After I became a widow at 44, I had a million people asking what I was going to do next. And honestly? I didn't have a clue. I didn't even know what I wanted for lunch, let alone what I wanted out of the next season of life.

And here's what I've learned: that's okay.

Clarity doesn't always show up with fireworks and a five-year plan. Sometimes it whispers through small moments - a flicker of interest, a gentle curiosity, or the relief of just saying "no" to things that no longer fit.

Why Losing Yourself Isn't the End - It's a Reintroduction

When you've spent years pouring into others - your marriage, your kids, your career - it's easy to forget what makes you feel alive. So if you're sitting there wondering what your dreams are now, you're not broken. You're just in a season of rediscovery.

And the best way to start finding your way again?

Start small.

One mini habit. One gentle step. One tiny "what if?" at a time.

What Helped Me Move Forward

I started asking myself one question:

"What would make today feel 5% better?"

Not 50%. Not perfect. Just.... a little lighter. A little more me. And over time, those small steps added up. I began to feel like I could dream again - not in a huge, dramatic way, but in a quiet, steady, hopeful way.

Final Thoughts

You don't have to figure it all out right now. You just have to take the next small step. You're not starting from scratch - you're starting from experience, from strength, and from a beautifully brave heart that's still beating with purpose.

Your next chapter isn't waiting for you to have all the answers. It's waiting for you to begin.

Resources I know You Will Love:

The Mini Habit Makeover - This 5-day mini course is designed to help you reset your routine and build powerful, doable habits - without the overwhelm. You'll get daily video lessons, printable habit trackers, and a fillable workbook to help you take action straight away. Each lesson is short, practical, and designed to fit into your real life (even when things feel messy). By the end of the week, you'll have a clearer routine, renewed energy, and simple tools to help you stay on track. The course is self-paced, so you can complete it on your own time and revisit it whenever you need to recalibrate.

My Favourite Wellness Product:

My Wellness Sidekick - Tahitian Noni Juice.

Now, speaking of support....let me introduce you to my daily wellness ritual: Tahitian Noni Juice.

Its been around for 30+ years (so it's basically the wise elder of the wellness drinks), and it's not just hype. It supports immunity, boosts energy, and helps me feel less blah - especially on days when midlife hormones and grief are doing the tango.

It's a small act of self-care that reminds me: I'm worth showing up for.

Grab it Here! and support both your wellness and this little blog/podcast while you're at it.