"I trust that my grief process is uniquely mine, and that's perfectly okay."- Rebecca Ann

Introduction:

Let’s be honest—when it comes to grief, “normal” doesn’t really exist. You might find yourself wondering, Is my grief weird, or is this normal? Trust me, it’s a question we all ask. Grief is messy, unpredictable, and sometimes feels downright bizarre. One minute you’re crying into your coffee, and the next, you’re giggling at a memory that pops up out of nowhere. Is that normal? You bet it is!

Episode 7: Is My Grief Weird, Or Is This Normal?

Grief Has No Rulebook

If grief had a rulebook, we’d probably throw it out the window. There’s no timeline, no manual, and certainly no “right” way to grieve. So if you’ve been asking yourself, Is my grief weird, or is this normal? the answer is always "yes"—because there is no normal when it comes to loss.

Here’s what I’ve learned:

• Grief doesn’t follow any logical path.

• One day you might feel strong and capable, and the next, you’re tearing up over a burnt piece of toast.

• Grief doesn’t play by the rules, and that’s okay.

The Weird Moments Are Normal

I’ve had my fair share of strange grief moments. Like when I found myself laughing uncontrollably at a memory in the middle of a serious conversation. Or the time I went days without shedding a tear, only to completely break down during a random TV commercial. Have you experienced something like this and wondered, Is my grief weird, or is this normal? Well, welcome to the club—these quirky moments are part of the grief ride.

Grief is a Rollercoaster

One of the most comforting things I’ve discovered is that grief is far from linear. It’s more like a rollercoaster you didn’t sign up for, with twists and turns that catch you off guard. And just when you think you’ve got a handle on things, a song or smell can send you spiraling again. So, when you’re in those odd moments, remember the question Is my grief weird, or is this normal? can always be answered with a resounding "yes".

What To Do When Grief Feels Weird

So what do you do when grief feels weird? Here are some tips that have helped me:

• Embrace the weirdness – It’s part of the process.

• Let the feelings flow – Whether you’re crying, laughing, or both at the same time, it’s all part of your unique journey.

• Don’t judge yourself – Grief doesn’t look the same for everyone, and that’s perfectly okay.

You're Doing Just Fine

If you find yourself asking, Is my grief weird, or is this normal? take a deep breath and remind yourself that you’re doing just fine. Whether you’re sobbing one minute and smiling the next, or if you haven’t shed a tear in days, it’s all part of the process. Grief is messy, unpredictable, and deeply personal. And no matter how it shows up for you, it’s okay.

This Weeks Actionable Step

When grief feels weird, just remember—it’s all part of the journey. Embrace the messiness because there’s no wrong way to grieve.

This Weeks Affirmation

"I trust that my grief process is uniquely mine, and that’s perfectly okay."

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